What is sexuality? Simply put, sexuality is defined by our capacity to experience sexual feelings. It is also our sexual preference or orientation. While we may think we have a clear understanding or our sexuality, it isn’t always that straightforward. Sexuality and/or sexual preference is fluid for a lot of people. What we like and prefer can change, sometimes several times throughout our lives. Some of us know exactly what we want and what “label” is attached but for others, it’s not as easy. So, lets discuss different types of sexual orientations.  While there are many, we will discuss the more common ones.


The most easily recognizable is, obviously, heterosexual. Heterosexual, also called straight, is defined by having a sexual or romantic attraction to a person of the opposite gender.  Heterosexuality can occur with both transgender and cisgender people. It is a falsehood and misconception that only cisgender individuals are heterosexual.


Also commonly shortened to “bi”, bisexuality I the attraction to individuals of more than one gender. Typically bisexual individuals are attracted to a gender similar to their own and a variety of others.


Previously identified by the outdated term homosexuality, gay, is described as being attracted to someone of the same identified gender as themselves. Both transgender and cisgender people can be homosexual.


Biromantic is when a person has romantic, but not sexual, feelings for people of a variety of genders.


Cupiosexual describes people who identify as asexual and don’t experience sexual attraction to any specific gender but still desire and engage in sex and sexual relationships.


A lesbian is a female identified person who has an attraction to a person of the same or similar sex. Some women prefer to identify as gay while others prefer the term lesbian.


Pansexual is a term that describes individuals who have an attraction to people regardless of the other persons sex, sexual identity or gender.


Previously the term queer was used with negative connotation and was derogatory. In recent years, it has emerged socially acceptable way to for an LGBTQA+ person to identify. Queer defines an individual who does not exclusively identify as heterosexual.  It’s and umbrella term that acknowledges that sexuality is a spectrum.

In spite of it’s growing use, the term queer is still considered a negative term by many and continues to be used as a slur. This term should only be used in a respectful manner and toward individuals who self identify as queer.


Sapiosexual is a term that is used to describe individuals who are attracted to intelligence and not gender or sex.

While this list is only a few of the more common ones, it can seem overwhelming but knowledge is power. As many things in life, sexuality included, are fluid and we are ever changing, learning and growing, it is important to understand these terms and concepts to help is fulfill the romantic and sexual aspects of our lives.

As always,

Stay safe and sexy!


Nichole Simpson is a researcher, author, blogger, sexual wellness expert and owner at http://www.thewonderlandco.com

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Woman, mom, author....oh, and I sell sex toys!

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